Reflecting

How many of us actually listen to what our partner is saying? How many of us actually tell our partner how we are really feeling thinking, craving….

How many of you come home from work, and don’t even ask how your partner’s day was at work or if anything exciting or bad happened. How many of us from time to time get a little something like a flower or perfume or tie for your partner not just on special occasions but just as a surprise to show you care. Sometimes when you’re so occupied with routine, or you have kids we forget the little things we did when we were younger and how hard we tried to show one another we care.

I know for myself I’m only 21, when I care about someone or I love someone I made sure every special occasion and other and spent so much money on gifts just to show I cared, even if it was just a card. As we get older sometimes our ego over comes us we don’t see the need in those little things that make the extra difference, that’s why so many marriages or relationships fail cause we get so caught up into routine we forget to take a special day where you do something exciting or romantic together. We get so caught in routine we forget anniversaries or each other birthday or we don’t notice that we cut each other’s hair or lost some weight or got a new clothing, it slowly diminishes from being us and love to just, oh yeah hey I see you every day whatever you look the same . I’m not saying spend every moment with your partner because I know from experience that can destroy a relationship, you need to have a balance pay special care to your partner, but also make that time to be with your friends, because if you don’t have that balance and special attention the relationship can’t last. Make your partner feel special, let them know when your upset about something they have done (us women, we can’t constantly play the silent game with the men till they figure out what they did wrong you have to just tell them in their face because we might be surprised if they listen build a bridge and get over it and try to fix it) and guys it’s a typical for you to forget the anniversary of your wedding after years but write it down cause when you’re in love there is no more beautiful thing to make us smile than you remembering it.

What to do when you have marriage problems

you can use these or just follow my blog up to you
Love at First Flight
- online marriage counseling
- relationship websites
- relationship counselor
- marriage counselor
- marital counseling
- couple therapy
- couples counseling
- couples therapy
- relationship counsellor
- marriage therapist

If your still searching for someone you feel comfortable with use these

- dating sites
- free dating sites
- dating websites
- dating online

The ones you pay for I imagine are safer then the free one's

Durex Survey

On A survey based on Durex What is sexual wellbeing? It is the physical, emotional, and sociological Factors that nurture the relationship with you and your partner.

We show in our relationship how satisfied or unsatisfied we are in our relationship based on or nurtured sex life in all three aspects. The problem we have sex wise sometime is pinpointing our driver satisfaction, and finding ways enhance the pleasure in their sex life.

60% of us say that sex is fun and vital part of life, but only 44% people are satisfied with our sex life.

and its been established that the majority of us as we get older we are less satisfied with our sex lives. More for men than women.

Reason some people when they are in a relationship for so long they loose that je ne sais qua.

Finding it boring and overly monotonous, also when having  children the sex decreases.

If you want to read further on the survey and statistics go here
http://www.durex.com/en-US/SexualWellbeingSurvey/pages/default.aspx

Here is a little game for you now Truth or Dare But with a spicy twang to it Called Dirty Truth or Dare.

1.      
Truth Give me a steamy detailed description of an ideal passionate encounter involving you and me in a lust location.

Dare I’m a sexy stranger at a bar. Pull out your best on the prowl tricks and try to pick me up for a one night stand.

2.       Truth Spill the seduction scenario your aching to act out

Dare Let me tie your hands. Now lay back and prepare for my sexy sneak attack

3.       Truth if you could dress me in the naughtiest come get me outfit. What would I be wearing and where would I be touching myself?

Dare strip off a piece of my clothing…but you can only use your teeth.

4.       Truth name a hot technique I haven’t used on you that you secretly wish I would

Dare give me a 10 minute all star performance of your signature move with a record breaking finale.

5.       Truth tell me the most unthinkable place you’ve ever wanted to get down and dirty.

Dare excite me with a sexual massage focusing on my hot sensitive zones

6.       Truth Divulge a dirty little secret about yourself that you’ve never told anyone

Dare be my sex slave for the next 20 minutes you must fulfill my every demand

7.       Truth describe in detail the dirtiest most erotic dream you’ve ever had with me

Dare I’m a film producer and you’re my model, Pose for your own x-rated movie and will join you (yes make your own porn movie)

8.       Truth tell me the most titillating  technique I’ve ever tried on you and why it’s so arousing

Dare work me into a uncontrollable arousal with two minutes of blush-worthy dirty talk

Why do Men and Women Cheat

Why do we cheat? It is kind of similar to children if your parents don’t praise you enough and give them attention they move on to someone else like the nanny, obviously as adults it’s a a lot more complex than that but you get the example.   In my opinion, for women, we cheat when deeper more emotional fulfillments aren’t met from our partner, and for men it is the same but sex plays a bigger role in that, or the reason sometimes doesn’t even involve you it’s something based on them being a bit insecure with themselves. But this is only my opinion lets see what the statistics have to say?

10 Top Reason Why Men Cheat

·        Because they had the choice to do so. “men are only as faithful as their options” Men get offered sex more often then women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to say no.

·          It boosts their ego. Sometimes men don’t feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex, yes men also need some compliments about their appearance from time to time its not only us women. When another woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to boost his ego and more. There’s nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt.

·          You grow apart. Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought or you’ve reached a bump in the road. He’s met a woman with whom he feels he has more in common with him.

·         You fight a lot. Men will sometimes cheat to get away from critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be near a person who is constantly on them about something. (we have a our parents for that)

·         “They have fallen out of love. Sometimes men are so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out or feel obligated to stay in the relationship. They may because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere.

·         This one is a bold one. If a man has a boring partner or isn’t getting enough sex at home to fulfill him, there is a good chance he will have an affair. Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not mean you don’t need a good thrill in sex, or to not try new things. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your sex life from getting boring or non-existent. Some men cheat because they want to try new sexual things that their partner refuses.

·         A man will sometimes cheat if he finds out his partner was cheating on him. It does sound childish but some people feel if they have been cheated on then the only way to feel better and stay with that person because you love them so much is to get revenge.

·         Some men get tired of having steak for dinner every night and want to try a hamburger (that’s why you have to try new things, new locations, do role play so that he doesn’t leave the home to for the hamburger.)

·         To see if they can get away with it.(like a child trying to sneak out of a party? Yeah basically)  If a man has thinks “what she doesn’t know, won’t hurt her,” he may cheat to see if he is sneaky enough to get away with it.

Because you have allowed it in the past. If you forgave him for a couple of times, he is more likely going to do it again. Because he knows how much you love him that if he begs enough, you will forgive them.
http://www.authorsden.com/categories/article_top.asp?catid=57&id=28897

Top 10 Reasons Why Women Cheat

·         Not Enough Sex  When responsibility entered the mix -- and kids -- and before you know it, sleep is important than sex. Well, women don’t like to feel unwanted. To keep that spark alive, ask her out on date nights, send her provocative e-mails at lunch, don’t let life get in the way of kissing, cuddling and sex. It’s not only about sex we need to feel that magical spark and that extra effort to make us happy be it just a little flower

·         Being The Bad Girl women have an inner sex minx just waiting to be unleashed -- and when the beast escapes from the cage, look out. This frisky behavior usually rears its ugly head in response to some sort of life change -- major weight loss, new job, new friends, mid-life crisis, etc. Some women also feel they should act lady like and not be so wild, so if someone else brings out her wild side watch out.

·         Self-Esteem  If your wife or girlfriend has self-esteem issues, it doesn’t mean she’s going to cheat -- and it’s not your fault if she does -- but there are ways to make her feel secure in the relationship that could help her from straying. Pay attention to her, ask her questions and don’t hold back on compliments.

·         Revenge/Payback For Past Wrongs Maybe you didn’t nessecarily cheat, or cheat at all, maybe you just messed up on something for your lives and broke her trust(and, possibly, her heart). She feels wounded and betrayed -- and wants to hurt you the same way you hurt her. Actions speak louder than words, you must prove her your sorry, not just say it.

·         Lack Of Intimacy You have it all: financially or so you think. But inside, the relationship is lacking the one thing women want most: intimacy. It’s not just sex that makes women feel connected in a relationship; it’s touching, kissing, cuddling, and communicating. We feed off of it, and we may not nessecarily cheat, sexually but emotional still counts. To improve intimacy, spend quality time together, give her a foot massage, make a romantic dinner for the two of you.

      ·   Feeling Neglected/Ignored/Underappreciated When she feels more like a maid than a girlfriend/wife, and you don’t notice those little things like she cut her hair or lost wait, or has a new outfit, that’s when she could stray. The fact that you spend all your time at work or on the golf course gives her double reason to seek attention elsewhere.

·         Your Emotional Withdrawal Incase you didn’t notice we are filled with emotions. Not only do we need physical support, but they also need emotional support. Once you retreat from the relationship, a breakup is inevitable. So, she’s not really cheating, she’s moving on. This  means sharing your icky feelings, but it’s better than the alternative, right?

·         Bedroom Boredom Sex can become boring if you let it  -- the same position; the same setting; the same person. An affair adds adventure and gets her adrenalin flowing. The unexpected adds excitement. ( get a kamasutra book)

·         Exit Strategy Yes we can be cowards as well, we use cheating to get out of the relationship. An affair is the easy way out -- or at least that’s how she sees it. We need to know we can talk to you about anything and that your love is enough to fix the bumps in the relationship road.

·         Revenge For Your Cheating” Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.” Because you cheated, she wants to get back at you and give you a dose of your own medicine.  Solution? Don’t cheat or try couples therapy maybe….
http://uk.askmen.com/top_10/dating_150/181b_dating_list.html 

Role Play

Now I know everyone must know what role play is maybe never tried it but are aware what it is. Now this you can either take some of the ideas I throw out here now or write up a couple of your own and put it in a box separate ones and then every once in a while, by surprise pick out a role play that you would like to be played out, from each other’s fantasy’s, or play each other’s fantasy as a different woman or man for variety. Also taking these role plays into reality of its setting is good, it good to give variety also to the location not just keep it in the boring bed be creative. These also serve a purpose if you in a long distance relationship you need some games for cyber or phone sex, to assure your partner won’t go searching someone else.

Example 1

You’re working late at the office. All you coworkers have gone home, and the cleaning crew, or so you thought. All of a sudden you hear some elegantly sexy strut approaching, with seductive aroma. You sit very still at your desk, wondering who is there. When you see a shadow right outside your door and…phew.  You realize, its only your sexy secretary Elena, wearing just a trench coat and some pumps, she comes on close to him, he moves slightly away not sure what to think, she removes her coat and grabs his hand and places it in her mouth and runs him fingers down his body until it enters her warm deep wet insides…(finish the fantasy)

Example 2

(night flight, everyone sleeping) We are on a plane bound to go to Brazilian where we are going for some good rest and relaxation. I fall asleep while you study your Brazilian to English dictionary. Then as I fell asleep I placed my legs on the seat and on you. Then you wake up and only you can see I’m not wearing any underwear and just had the bikini wax, you slowly make sure no one is looking, and I place my hand up your skirt, and start stroking your orgasmic area and cum yourself as I stroke u as if u were dreaming it, and then once I feel your wet I will gently wake you and place your hand on my cock, then (finish the fantasy)

Example 3
you and the forest police are taking a hike through the woods, you ask what are we going to do here ? he says you’ve been a naughty girl…and gently push her to the tree, and cuff her facing the tree, bending down and start rubbing on her with your cock, then go in between her and the cuffed tree, and run your cock down her face and breast, and then slowly place it inside her till she moans, and lift her up (finish the fantasy)

5 step Naughty Night (must go through all 5 steps no cheating no matter how hard it is )

Step 1
Ladies: Find your sexiest lingere you have that make him go crazy, don't have one? Well go hop to the store and get one for the man you love. Then wear some nice clothes over the lingere, put on his favorite perfume on you, stick on some pumps, and sit back while he showers you with sweet sensual sensations.

Gentlemen: Turn on the music, then take your necktie and blindfold her. Run your fingers down her chest towards her lower abs, while slowly remving her clothing, just leaving her underwear. Then drag your tongue slowly over her sensitive areas, and then do the same with a soft pillow till she groans in desire.

Step 2

Gentlemen: strip down to your birthday suit and take a seat in a chair sit back and enjoy while she blows your mind.

Ladies: Take your scarf you were wearing and blind fold him, then take two pillow cases to tie his arms to the chair. Stand in front naked, and take your fingertips all along his body. then take a drop of eatable, lubricant and place just a drop on your nipples and place it in his mouth. Then to add a extra kick to arrousal, straddle your self along his arm and hand and tell him not to touch. Then place yourself on his member, but don't let him enter. Nothing is more arrousing than temptaion.

Step 3

Ladies and Gentlemen: This one you can take turns, have a  very warm drink by your side, and some ice. Take a sip of the hot and lavish your tongue on one anothers body, then place the ice in your mouth and make eachothers bodies tingle.

Step 4

Make sure for this one you have a strong chair that wont break things are about to get hot.

Gentlemen: sit and enjoy the ride

Ladies: Don't face him and straddle him so he can slip inside you. Take a ribbon and hold each end in between your legs, and loop around his twins, and slide it back and forth. Gently tug on his twins with your lasso as you gyrate. After several minute have him lie down on his back, take a belt and rap it around you close to your behind, and give him both ends to steer you, until you both climax.

Step 5

Ladies: set the alarm to 3 am, on low volume. When the alarm comes on turn it off before he completley wakes up. Then light some candles around the bed, hold on to his member and move your hand up and down. Then work your way down low and take him into your mouth, when he begins to moan move your way back up with some water based lubricant and place him inside of you.

Gentlemen: Make slow, sweet,  gentle, and passionate love to your wife or girlfriend whatever the case.

Thats all for this week. (This one could be for those more shy couples, its not so extreme, just to play with the senses a bit )